Standard questions about BDSM

How safe it really is?

To be absolutely honest, it is as safe as the person you are involved in has it in mind. I am very strict with everything I do, in the sense that it is consensual, safe and sane, just like one of the oldest Mistress etiquette demands, and I stick to the tradition since it’s what kept the concept alive and so magical for thousands of years. My most important aspects are hygiene, physical safety and mental health of my subs, and I carefully choose my sessions and activities, so both of us can benefit from each action. Different people do different stuff, and that is something you have to research very good, to find your match, so you can grow with her and by her side. So, bottom line, it all depends on people and their choices.

How hardcore can it get?

This is also one of very wide- range possibilities topic, since the whole relationship or some sessions can be more or less hardcore, depending on experience of partners and their desires. Let’s just say, it’s up to you and your Mistress…

Are there some sort of levels in Domination, or stages?

We do not really call it levels, it is more of a style. Imagine dancing styles of couples or even styles in making love… this is very similar, since it is being developed through giving and getting, so as much as you get to know your Mistress, she also gets to know you and develops a very precise way to reward you for serving her good, with whatever you feel as a reward, being that pain or kind words or gratitude for having you in her life. So this is a very personal and between you two matter that you develop as your relationship develops.

Is it only about pain and power or..?

Could be, but mostly not only about those two aspects, no matter how intense they might be. The power exchange exists, but the specific levels of certain sensation are being developed among partners and they resonate with each other in a perfect harmony.

Would a normal person do something like this?

This is a very delicate question, because the term “normal” itself has many meanings, so there is no one answer. The point is that, in order to do or even try some of these interesting exchanges, people have to be out of an average range of population, since an average person mostly does not feel like challenging social norms they were raised into, so getting involved in something that sounds extreme would not make any sense to them. Trying BDSM does not categorize people as “crazy”, if that might also be the reply, since one has to be mentally stable to even feel like exploring the boundaries of their emotional capacities and go beyond.

Is there a particular group of people who are into BDSM?

Although it would not be fair to point out at a specific group of people, I can safely say that most of people who are into BDSM, no matter the level are among the wealthier and of a higher intelligence than average people. This is not the criteria for someone to join the group, but look at it this way- people of a higher intelligence are most likely into challenging social norms and exploring the unknown, and the wealthier they are, they can afford more of the equipment and clothes that can be very expensive, which are being used in BDSM plays. So, although everyone is welcome and free to try, mostly those with the right mindset and at least basic funds can really start going deeper into it. It can happen that someone just looks like they are into BDSM, yet that they are taking it very lightly and mostly only dress up to look kinky. BDSM is not just a party theme, it is a lifestyle for some people and should be understood as such.

For those who want to know what is sexual kick…

Depending on the role, the essence of it can be in giving up your freedom willingly, or being fully responsible for the other one, the one with the ultimate power given willingly by the other one. Although we can see relationships like this even in everyday life, among couples, in BDSM it is done willingly and partners get way more satisfaction from it. Sometimes you can read that partners play complementary roles, but they actually live their roles through the relationship in which they entered willingly and aware of it’s structure.

A little bit about equipment, costumes and roles that partners play…

It is all connected and depends on personal preferences of the couple. Costumes can go from uniforms, vintage outfit to some very particular styles, and equipment usually follows the main idea. Starting from the boss and the secretary, teacher and student, therapist and client, just imagine the possibilities and options you can explore…

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